thehawke:

when you’re called out on your oppressive behavior by an oppressed group it doesnt matter if other people of the same group tell you what you’re doing is not oppressive; you need to listen to the people who are calling you out because the other group won’t be affected at all if you modify your behavior, but if you don’t you will be deliberately harming the ones who do believe what you’re doing is wrong.

you don’t get to pick and choose the opinions that are convenient for you so you can do what you want; whether something is oppressive or not is not for you to decide, and to use the part of a community that agrees with you to silence the rest of that same community is fucking disgusting